Why don't I get involved with clients? I get asked to get involved with my clients all the time and I have a few different reasons why I won't. But trust me sometimes I do want to get involved! I try to stick to the rule of not getting involved with anyone because at the end of the day getting involved can make things messy.
First of all, if I give it up to one of the guys then everyone will expect it, which turns into something that I cannot handle nor would I ever want to handle. The second that guys think you're an escort or that you are open to seeing them outside of a party everyone wants to hop on the option, too. What sucks is that even if I do want to get involved I don't want to make anyone else mad that I don't want to get involved with them, too. Because sometimes there are really sexy guys at the parties and I do want to sleep with them or go out with them. But it's hard for men to understand why, as a stripper, I wouldn't want to fuck everyone there. But that's another blog for another time!
Second, it gives the clients expectations about our company. Just because one girl got involved with clients, doesn't mean that everyone else will, too. It would suck for a girl to come to a party and everyone there think that she's also an escort or that she's down to fuck because someone else from the company did. It just creates a whole messy situation that nobody wants.
I also don't get involved with clients because that's not really the way I want to meet someone that I would want to be in a relationship with or hangout with. I feel like the whole situation would make things kind of weird between us. Like what if I wanted to take things slow, he has already seen me butt ass naked, I've danced all over him and his friends. He wouldn't be able to take me seriously if I said I wanted to take things slow- and I wouldn't blame him for that. It depends on the situation and the guy but sometimes I don't want to have sex for a while because I actually like the person I'm seeing and sex makes things messy sometimes. I can't expect someone to wait when they've seen every inch of me already.
Lastly, I feel like if I did get involved with clients it would create a weird place in my head with my job. If I was hanging out with all my clients all the time I wouldn't be able to separate my life from work. At the end of the day, stripping is my job. Although it's definitely unconventional it still is my line of work and how I make money. I don't always want to be in work mode and I think that if I had a bunch of my clients around me I would have to be in work mode. I wouldn't be able to be myself either because I would have to put this show on that I'm overly sexual because that's the character I put on at parties, which isn't totally me. I don't know, I just feel like it would create a whole situation where I couldn't get away with work and I had to be the stripper version of me instead of me me.
There's definitely a lot more cons then there are pros of getting involved with clients. I try to keep my side of the street very clean with my job. I try to make sure I'm doing the best I can, and getting involved wouldn't be the best that I can. I try to respect myself and my boundaries as well. Keeping work and my personal life separate is definitely the best move for me. So, I'll continue to do it!