Rules at Private Parties in Atlanta

This blog is all about the rules that we have at private parties. These rules are essential to creating a safe space for everyone to feel comfortable and still have a fun time. I make sure to ALWAYS say all of the rules every single time I go to a party- even if they have booked with us before and they know the rules. It always is important to state the rules in the beginning, too, so there's no confusion during the party. If you don't state your boundaries, you can't get mad for them not being followed, right? So make sure to always lay out the ground rules so that nobody crosses a line that will make your night worse, and so you don't make the clients feel bad about it either. So, here we go!

First rule is no pictures or videos during the performance. This rule is very important and usually is always followed with no questions asked. We do a lot of bachelor parties and most of the men have wives or fiancés so they don't want it to be documented because they don't want there to be any proof! That rule is set there because our company plays different party games and we don't want the fun getting out. It would spoil all of the fun if everyone already knew the party games and knew what they were getting into. It's a surprise every time to everyone there what we do. Also, we don't want to give anything away for free. If someone posts a video of us playing some of the games, we're not getting paid for that person seeing it. So, that's unfair to us. I know for me, I don't give anything away for free!

Second rule is no fingers in our pussy or ass. This one always makes everyone laugh, but we have to say it because guys will try it all the time and they would DEFINITELY try it if we hadn't said not to. This one seems like it would be common sense not to do that to someone, but guys are dumb when their at parties and when their drinking. So we have to say this rule and I absolutely hate it when people try it. 

Third rule is just to be respectful with the touching. We're okay with a squeeze and will touching here and there but we do ask for everyone to be respectful. Being respectful means don't slap us really hard, don't squeeze til it hurts, don't slap our pussies, etc. Just understand that yes we are strippers but we are also people and we having feelings too! We don't like it when we feel taken advantage of.

Fourth rule is don't recycle the money. If it hits the floor or if its in any of our garments its our money now. Don't pick it up and give it back to us, it's super tacky and not cute. We are there to make money at the end of the day, so when it looks like you're trying to take advantage of the money we make it pisses us off and it's not a good look for anyone. 

So as you can see there's not a lot of rules, and they aren't unreasonable at all. They make a lot of sense and they keep the party going a lot smoother. They also help so that there's no awkwardness about anything, too. If you hire private dancers, make sure that you follow all of their rules (everyone I'm sure has different ones, these are just mine) because it will make them stay longer and make them feel comfortable which is usually what everyone wants. 

Why is it Legal to Tease, but not to Please?

So, I was asked recently, “why do you think that it’s  legal to tease people, but not legal to please people?” and it really got me thinking.

A lot of people view sex workers as slutty, dirty, without self-worth/self-love, etc. I don’t know why so many people look down on sex work and sex workers, but it just comes with the job. I have learned that some people are open to it, and some people aren’t. It’s just the way it is. So this blog is going to be about my opinions of the legalities of sex work.

Obviously strip clubs are legal, and obviously it’s not a crime to order strippers, or go to a strip club. But, for some reason, it’s illegal to perform sexual favors for money; and I don’t think that it should be. Now, keep an open mind about what my reasons are because they make sense. I have thought about this topic for a while, so don’t think that I am just pulling this out of my ass. I’m not. This is truly what I believe, and why. 

First of all, being an escort is a job. No matter what it is, if you’re doing something for money it’s technically a job and a source of income. It’s a way to support yourself, and even to support your family. Some people can’t work in a desk/office job environment. I know I can’t. I would be absolutely miserable behind a desk all day. So, it’s a different kind of job and a way to make money in an unconventional way, but it’s not wrong. It’s different- and a lot of people can’t accept “different”, which sucks. But. coming back to my point, it is a job. There’s no reason why this kind of job should be illegal. If both parties are consenting, let these people make money! It’s very unfair to not let people work the way they want to. Everyone wants different things for their lives, and everyone has their limits on what their willing to do. So, if someone is willing and able to be an escort, there’s no reason why they shouldn’t be able to work. 

Second, if it’s all consensual, then there is nothing wrong with it. It’s not illegal to have consensual sex, or a consensual blowjob. Why is making money off of it suddenly not okay? I know so many people who have sex with their significant other to get something in return. For example, one of my best friends told me how the other day she got her boyfriend to get her breakfast with a blowjob. This is technically giving a sexual favor for something in return. So, when it comes to money or jewelry, or new clothes it’s suddenly wrong? This doesn’t make any sense. Why is it not considered wrong when you’re in a relationship but when it’s with someone else, it’s wrong? Why are we slut shaming escorts, and saying that their bad people or dirty people? They are living their lives the way they want to. If they didn’t want to be an escort anymore, they would stop. A lot of people think that escorts are stuck in this place where they have to have sex for money, but most of the time their doing it because they want to. If I didn’t want to be a stripper anymore, I wouldn’t. Case closed. 

Finally, I think that it’s illegal is because it makes people uncomfortable. For some reason, someone decided that sex is a private thing, and you shouldn’t be open about how it makes you feel or if you like sex at all. It’s become this thing that we need to hide, and keep secret. Well, I say fuck that. I love sex and I’m more than happy to talk about my sex life and talk about it. It’s not a dirty thing. It’s the most natural thing a human being can do. Sex is full of pleasure and excitement. It’s not something we should feel like we have to hide. I am extremely open about my sex life, and people know that I like to have sex. This doesn’t make me a whore, and it doesn’t make me a dirty person, either. This makes me human; and I’m proud of myself for not being ashamed of something that everyone does. 

So, if you read this whole blog you can clearly know that I am all for sex work and all for escorting to be legal. It’s a personal choice if you want to partake in escorting. It’s not wrong, it’s not bad, and it makes sense. Some people get off on the feeling of paying someone for sexual favors, and some people do it for the money. Sex is a normal thing, and if you want that to be your job, then fucking do it! Be who you are to the fullest, because you only have one life to live. I would love to see a world where sex work is just like any other job, and hopefully one day we will get there. But for now, I guess doing illegal stuff is the way to go!