How to Keep a Stripper at your Atlanta Party Longer

This blog is gonna give you some tips and tricks on how to get a stripper to stay at your party longer. The common subject is just being polite, and understanding that although we are strippers and we work in the sex industry, we are still people. We all still have feelings and we care about the way we are treated. I know in my experience, when someone breaks my rules or they disrespect me, I don't go near them for the rest of the night. So, follow these tips and you're sure to have your dancer there for a long time!

1. This one is super obvious, and a no-brainer: TIP BIG! If you're planning on ordering strippers to your house, prepare to spend a lot of money. There's nothing more annoying then driving all the way to a party to make no money. So, prepare to have your wallet cry in the morning. Have one's and it's always impressive when you tip with more than just one's ;)

2. I wish that I could say that this one is common sense, but it has to be said at every party that I dance at. Be respectful. I personally don't mind if you touch, or squeeze, but when you're slapping me and throwing me around, that's another story. This one guy slapped my pussy so hard one time I almost cried. That shit is not okay. It made me super mad, I wanted to leave, and I didn't perform my best that night because I felt uncomfortable. When you're disrespectful, it makes me want to steer clear of you, no matter how much money you have.

3. I also wish that I could say that this is common sense, but I have to talk about it. Listen to all of the rules, follow all of the rules, and try to enforce them, too. This kind of ties in with the respect thing, but it pisses me off so much that after we have said all of our rules, you decide to break them. It's like some men feel special and like they don't have to follow the rules. EVERYONE has to follow them. Even if I was stripping for my boyfriend and his friends, he still would have to follow the rules, too. I don't care who you are. I don't have a lot of rules and I'm super easy-going. So it's no surprise that when you break my rules, I ignore you for the rest of the night and I get pissed. Follow the rules and you will have an amazing night.

4. This one is just helpful, and for me it makes me want to stay longer. When you offer food and drinks, and you're just welcoming in general, it makes me feel comfortable. When I feel comfortable somewhere I'm okay staying longer because I know I'm safe. So when I feel so welcomed, it's hard not to want to stay and hangout. I've stayed at parties an hour or two after the performance just hanging out because the guy's were nice and they offered us a bunch of free food and free alcohol (which no one can ever complain about!). So, be a good host and your dancers will love you!

5. Last but not least, let us be in control. I love it when guys are listening, and they understand that we want to have fun with you guys but we're in a room, outnumbered, and it's hard to talk over a bunch of people. Let us be in control of what's going on and what's happening. And also- let us be in control of when and where we're dancing, and when to play the party games and all that. There's nothing more annoying then being told what to do or how to do my job. I know what I'm doing-trust me. Let me do my thing. Just sit down, relax, and enjoy the show.

So, follow these tips and tricks to get your dancers to stay longer. Everyone always has so much fun at these parties, and they usually don't want us to leave, so I'm guessing you won't want them to leave, too! Again, they're mostly all about being respectful and sweet. So use your brain, and treat these hard working people with the upmost respect.

The Effects Stripping Has Had on My Self-Esteem

Before I start getting into this blog, I want everyone reading it to know that this is my personal experience and I do not speak for anyone but myself. I am in no way speaking for anyone else or trying to put myself in another stripper’s shoes. This is all from me. 

Okay, so this blog may shock you, or this may be exactly what you thought. But to be perfectly honest with everyone, stripping has boosted my self-esteem beyond compare. I feel like the baddest bitch ever when I am dancing. It’s honestly so hard not to feel like that when you have tons of men literally drooling over you and throwing their hard earned cash on you. How else am I supposed to feel?!

I’ve been stripping now for about two years. I can’t count the amount of times people have asked me, “don’t you feel so degraded? Doesn’t that kill your self-esteem? How do you even live like that?”. To which I always reply, “I love stripping and it has boosted my self confidence more than anything else has. I love my job, and I love the way it makes me feel.” 

I guess this isn’t the most conventional way to boost your self-esteem, but for me it works. Just like anyone else, I’m insecure about my body sometimes. There are definitely many times where I look in the mirror and absolutely hate what I’m seeing. But, when I go to a party I immediately know that I will feel better about myself when I leave. Something that I’ve learned is that I am my worst critic. I am so mean to myself sometimes. It’s funny because the way I talk to myself I would never let any of my friends ever talk that way about themselves. So, when I’m feeling horrible about myself or I just can’t stand to look in the mirror, I think about the party that I had last week where guys were fighting over who I paid attention to. That they were literally emptying their wallets in the hope that I would stay longer. If that doesn’t boost your confidence, what will??? 

Like I said in the beginning, this is totally my own experience. I know that the job can be degrading, but I don’t think I’ve ever felt like that. I know that it seems like after a while it would tear at you, or you wouldn’t enjoy it as much, but for me this hasn’t been the case yet. I really do enjoy my job and I really enjoy the reactions that I get while I’m doing my job. It feels good to know how many people want you and desire you. It feels good to know that you really are that bitch! So for me stripping has had an awesome effect on my self-esteem, and I hope that it continues to do so. All I know is that for now, I will continue to strip and continue to let it boost my confidence and make me feel amazing. I love my job and all the benefits that come with it!

XO, 

Lola

The Essentials For an Adult Private Party or Strip Club

This blog is to tell you all about what you need when you are heading to a party. The way that my company works is that we go to your party, so we’re a mobile service company. If you’ve ever seen strippers in a movie showing up to someone’s house in a cop uniform, that’s pretty much what we do. When we’re at the party we dance (obviously) but we also play party games as well. So, it’s essential to have a few things when preparing to head out to a party.

First, you need the outfit you’re going to wear, but ALWAYS pack some backups. Bring two or three outfits just in case one gets ruined or a zipper breaks. You always need extras since you’re traveling to their spot. I always pack at least three or four bras and thongs, two outfits, and two pairs of shoes. Heels break and so do straps! It’s always better to be prepared. 

Second, you need all of the party game accessories. We play a few different games, but one includes spanking, another includes whipped cream, and another includes something we call “cooter shooters” (which are tubes of alcohol we put into our pussy and they take a shot of it). Those are really fun, trust me. So, I always make sure to pack a whip, some whipped cream, the shooters, baby wipes (to clean up the whipped cream), and a bag to hold it all in. I also bring a party light, a speaker, and a money bag. Those are also important because they set the mood for a fun party and of course you’re going to need a bag to put all your money in while you’re dancing. 

Next, I always make sure to bring some beauty essentials. I always have my hair and makeup done when I go into the party, but I always make sure to bring back up just in case my makeup gets messed up in the car or when I’m changing. I always bring my makeup bag, and a hair straightener with a brush, just in case. Then of course you bring perfume, pussy spray (like perfume or deodorant for your pussy), deodorant, hair ties, hair spray, and a handheld mirror. Those are just extras to prepare for the beauty part. Guys want you to look put together and smell nice, too. They care about your face, too, not just your body!

These are exactly what you’ll need if you’re going to your first party, or if you don’t know what to pack. A lot of this can also be used in a club (minus the whipped cream and shooters). If you’re just starting to get in the club/dancing scene make sure you come prepared! And don’t forget to have fun, and make lots of money! 

XO, 

Lola

We Just Know What We Are Wanting.

Everybody in life has a different story to tell. Everyone has their own path,their own desires, their own wants, and their own needs. Sometimes, it takes time to discover want one desires to do with their life. However, once you find that desire or you find that path you want to ride along, don't give it up for anything or anyone. This is your life and your journey and you belong on it.
So many people have their own opinions on what your life should look like; and something I've learned is to live how I want to, when I want to, and where I want to. I live in Atlanta and have learned everything in Atlanta. I work in a safe,amazing, and thrilling environment: I am an Atlanta female stripper- and I couldn't love it more. I am a prime example of someone who is in the sex work industry and who genuinely adores her job. I have gotten all the backlash, snarky comments, and angry glares. But I wouldn't think of changing my occupation for a minute. Nobody pressured me into it, nobody is making me do it- I chose this for myself.
There is so much negativity around sex work. Some people assume the worst about us, judge us, or put a story to us that couldn't be further from the truth. Well, I 'm writing this article to set the record straight. I am a normal, joyful, and positive woman who knows what she wants and goes after it. Strip clubs in Atlanta have become my happy place and where I find pleasure and joy. I love what I do, and I say that honestly. I only wish and hope people could open their eyes and see the positive parts of sex work. If the word "sex" had more knowledge and understanding behind it, maybe we would be at the point of acceptance around it. Sex is the most natural and normal action a human being can take part in. Pleasure is something (I feel) that everyone wants. We want to be happy, we want to do things that make us feel good- and if you can't admit that one of the things that makes you feel the best isn't sex, you need to be more honest with yourself. There is absolutely nothing bad, or gross, or dirty about desiring sex. That's the best thing about me being a stripper is that I know I bring pleasure and happiness with what I do. I enjoy making people happy and making them smile. I love helping people fulfill their desires; whether that means making them their favorite meal, or helping them achieve a hard goal, or shaking my ass in their face because they love my naked body! I am not ashamed to say that I get naked in front of a bunch of people and feel my sexiest because I have dozens of people drooling over me. Not too many people can say that.
The sex work industry puts a bad taste in people's mouths because of what they "know" about it. But truly, people know nothing about it.They hear something online or watch it in a movie and believe that that is real life. Unless you talk to a stripper or learn the facts about it, you have no idea what goes on behind the scenes. I work in Atlanta strip clubs and with Atlanta stripper agencies because I want to. Atlanta male strippers and Atlanta female strippers make a lot of money and have a great time doing it. I am speaking about Atlanta because this is where I get my experience. Strip clubs in Atlanta are exciting and all I see from the customers is smiles, laughs, googly eyes, drooling,and a genuine look of pure entertainment. Whether it's a male strip club in Atlanta, a Gentlemen's club in Atlanta, an Atlanta adult entertainment experience, a female strip club in Atlanta, everyone there is having an amazing time. The work is exhilarating and exciting. Every time I perform I get an instant rush of adrenaline and can't help but smile. I have never had a bad or uncomfortable experience stripping. I have never felt pressured to perform or intimidated by a boss. I choose this work, just like all of my co-workers. The flexible hours, the insane money, the adrenaline- all of it factors into why I (and so many others) couldn't be more happy and thrilled to be in this line of work. If we didn't want to do it anymore- we wouldn't.
The sex work industry is full of honest and genuine people who know what they are wanting and who they want to be. They push away negativity and judgement and live their life the way they want to and are supposed to. I have never in my life as a stripper felt dirty or gross about myself. And I have never ever felt ashamed of what I do. I proudly tell people what I do for work and whether they want to agree with it or not, I keep a smile on my face. I try to educate people everywhere to know that this isn't dirty work- we just are more open-minded about life and we understand that people want sex. Have you ever really thought about that? Yes! People want sex. People even need sex! If you're willing and wanting to pay for it and someone agrees to fulfill that need- more power to you! There is nothing wrong with escorting, there is nothing wrong with shaking your titties for money, there is nothing wrong with doing exactly what YOU want. Live how you want to and do what you want to. We are not dirty or slimy people. We are just like you. You wouldn't be able to spot us out of a crowd unless we tell you about ourselves and choose to inform whoever we are talking to about our occupation. I can't say this enough: we are just like you. We have a job, we make money, we do what we need to to get by in the world. I just think we have way more fun doing it.

Again, I love my job. I love being a stripper. I love making money and having a hell of a good time doing it. I love meeting other sex workers and talking about how awesome it is to be so comfortable with ourselves and our sexuality that we have the courage to be exactly who we want to be. I have never felt more confident in my life then when I started stripping. I am here to tell everyone out there that has judgement or negativity about the sex industry that the majority of us are in love with our lives and wouldn't want to change a damn thing- so we will continue to shake our asses for anyone who wants to see it.

-Lola, one of the many Atlanta strippers for hire.