The Effects Stripping Has Had on My Self-Esteem

Before I start getting into this blog, I want everyone reading it to know that this is my personal experience and I do not speak for anyone but myself. I am in no way speaking for anyone else or trying to put myself in another stripper’s shoes. This is all from me. 

Okay, so this blog may shock you, or this may be exactly what you thought. But to be perfectly honest with everyone, stripping has boosted my self-esteem beyond compare. I feel like the baddest bitch ever when I am dancing. It’s honestly so hard not to feel like that when you have tons of men literally drooling over you and throwing their hard earned cash on you. How else am I supposed to feel?!

I’ve been stripping now for about two years. I can’t count the amount of times people have asked me, “don’t you feel so degraded? Doesn’t that kill your self-esteem? How do you even live like that?”. To which I always reply, “I love stripping and it has boosted my self confidence more than anything else has. I love my job, and I love the way it makes me feel.” 

I guess this isn’t the most conventional way to boost your self-esteem, but for me it works. Just like anyone else, I’m insecure about my body sometimes. There are definitely many times where I look in the mirror and absolutely hate what I’m seeing. But, when I go to a party I immediately know that I will feel better about myself when I leave. Something that I’ve learned is that I am my worst critic. I am so mean to myself sometimes. It’s funny because the way I talk to myself I would never let any of my friends ever talk that way about themselves. So, when I’m feeling horrible about myself or I just can’t stand to look in the mirror, I think about the party that I had last week where guys were fighting over who I paid attention to. That they were literally emptying their wallets in the hope that I would stay longer. If that doesn’t boost your confidence, what will??? 

Like I said in the beginning, this is totally my own experience. I know that the job can be degrading, but I don’t think I’ve ever felt like that. I know that it seems like after a while it would tear at you, or you wouldn’t enjoy it as much, but for me this hasn’t been the case yet. I really do enjoy my job and I really enjoy the reactions that I get while I’m doing my job. It feels good to know how many people want you and desire you. It feels good to know that you really are that bitch! So for me stripping has had an awesome effect on my self-esteem, and I hope that it continues to do so. All I know is that for now, I will continue to strip and continue to let it boost my confidence and make me feel amazing. I love my job and all the benefits that come with it!

XO, 

Lola

How do people deal with jealousy in an open relationship?

The same way people learn to deal with contrast with being afraid for their first day in school, to drive a vehicle (at the very beginning), to speak with people (they find extremely sexy), to go on a very first date, losing your virginity, to cook a meal (they've never cooked before), tend to their garden (better every year that passes), firing a gun (for the first time ever), first time going to a strip club , traveling or moving to a foreign country, so on & so forth. 

How to NOT deal with contrast! 😳

We did not come into this world with an exact prescription nor wanting an exact script, diet plan, style of dress attire, particular genre of music to like, kind of company to keep around, one single planned skilled trade to make a living from or way to learn things as we grow up. Everything in life has the contrast of being wanted and the contrast or absence of something unwanted in each and every individual’s life.

To be or not be?

 Life has all sorts of variations of subtle, average or extreme moments of contrast that causes soft or strong feelings of uncomfortability, emotional turmoil and fear until this variation is completely avoided, put into a different perspective or the vibration is practiced enough to where it no longer causes discomfort from within which in turn is supposed to be an inner guidance system that simply allows one to sift and sort to find clarity, awareness of one's self and even at times a spiritual awakening of a collective consciousness and the energies and vibrations that are in play in our every being and in every cell in our entire perfect body that supports this consciousness we look out from upon. The human body, the mind & spirit is at its maximum output when people are knowing what they are wanting/not wanting, knowing what they prefer/don't prefer and knowing when their inner voice says let's learn how to do this particular thing better by practicing a repetitive vibration until it becomes easy going, more natural, a lot more familiar or no longer foreign at all anymore. 

William Shakespeare

This is ultimately what I personally believe life is all about… collecting data. A lot of people ignore the data their gut tells them most of the time are extremely co-dependent or are possibly not open minded to other kinds of views, beliefs or perspectives. Ultimately it boils down to a person just not really knowing what they want, do not know how to stand up for what they are wanting and/or are in total & complete fear of what others might think if they actually stood up for themselves and said, "I LIKE _____________ & I DON'T CARE WHAT ANYONE THINKS." This sometimes can be hard for someone who has practiced this vibration for most of their life. Most likely such suffering slows the growth of the higher consciousness down and disconnects them from their true alignment within themself. To find out more about these teachings go here to some of these audio clip links on YouTube:

👉 Abraham Hicks - click link

👉 Ester Hicks - click link

“ THE LAW OF ATTRACTION “

~ A personal request ~

If this attracts you, changes your vibration and your life is no longer the same please drop me a line and tell us your personal story and how you are on a whole new wave length and channeled vibration. That is if you do not mind. We absolutely ❤️ what this has done in our lives, the lives of those closest to us and fully appreciate witnessing the unfolding of a life full of fun, happiness and collective consciousness!

Master Manifestor