Wednesday, September 25, 2019

My Family VS. My Stripping Job

This blog is going to be a bit of a venting session for me, so hang on tight. This is going to be about how I walk around literally feeling like I have two lives. One version of me is the way that my family wants to see me, and one version of me is who I actually am. This is the venting blog session of the half stripper, half innocent daughter.

So, I started dipping my toes into the sex worker side of the world about two and a half years ago. I decided to become a stripper and see what it was all about. I did one party and fell in love. I loved the attention, and how fun it actually was. I loved being able to dance and shake my ass without any shame or judgement. And of course, I absolutely adored the money. The way that people just threw it at you like you're the queen of the world and worth every single penny they've ever worked for, is a fucking fantastic feeling. Anyways, I just knew that this was something that I wanted to do for a long time. I was 18 years old at the time, and still lived with my parents. I moved out after about three or four months of stripping- but the entire time I hid the fact that I was a stripper. My family had absolutely no idea. I did tell my friends but nobody in my family knew about it, because I knew if they did know about it they wouldn't be anything near okay with it. So I fell in love with my job but had to hide it from the people I loved most. It sucked and it got super hard to keep it a secret, and one day it just slipped to my older sister. And my whole family found out and they were furious. And it was horrible and awful and so upsetting.

So, a year later I decided that it was my life and I wanted to start dancing again, so I talked to my old bosses and they welcomed me back with open arms. So, now I'm dancing again and I have to really really keep it a secret this time around or my family will never speak to me again. And now I'm just stuck in this place of really wanting to be honest with them, but also knowing what will happen if I am honest. It's a super shitty place to be in, because I really do hate lying to them. But I also want to be able to live my life the way I want to live it. This is something I want to do and I don't want to live my life based on making other people happy. So, I decided that this is what I'm going to do.

But, now I'm just stuck in a place of hating that I am lying to my whole family, and hating why I have to lie. I have to lie because my family is judgmental, and they refuse to accept something they don't understand or try to understand for that matter. They refuse to hear my side of the story, or to try to understand why I do it and why I like doing it. It just makes me sad that something that I love to do in my life is completely unacceptable to the people I love most. It's unfair that I can't be happy and be everything they want me to be. Frankly, it fucking sucks. And I'm pissed about it. So thank you for listening to this random, weird venting session. I know it'll be figured out eventually, but for now- it blows. 

Thursday, September 12, 2019

The Effects Stripping Has Had on My Self-Esteem


Before I start getting into this blog, I want everyone reading it to know that this is my personal experience and I do not speak for anyone but myself. I am in no way speaking for anyone else or trying to put myself in another stripper’s shoes. This is all from me. 

Okay, so this blog may shock you, or this may be exactly what you thought. But to be perfectly honest with everyone, stripping has boosted my self-esteem beyond compare. I feel like the baddest bitch ever when I am dancing. It’s honestly so hard not to feel like that when you have tons of men literally drooling over you and throwing their hard earned cash on you. How else am I supposed to feel?!

I’ve been stripping now for about two years. I can’t count the amount of times people have asked me, “don’t you feel so degraded? Doesn’t that kill your self-esteem? How do you even live like that?”. To which I always reply, “I love stripping and it has boosted my self confidence more than anything else has. I love my job, and I love the way it makes me feel.” 

I guess this isn’t the most conventional way to boost your self-esteem, but for me it works. Just like anyone else, I’m insecure about my body sometimes. There are definitely many times where I look in the mirror and absolutely hate what I’m seeing. But, when I go to a party I immediately know that I will feel better about myself when I leave. Something that I’ve learned is that I am my worst critic. I am so mean to myself sometimes. It’s funny because the way I talk to myself I would never let any of my friends ever talk that way about themselves. So, when I’m feeling horrible about myself or I just can’t stand to look in the mirror, I think about the party that I had last week where guys were fighting over who I paid attention to. That they were literally emptying their wallets in the hope that I would stay longer. If that doesn’t boost your confidence, what will??? 

Like I said in the beginning, this is totally my own experience. I know that the job can be degrading, but I don’t think I’ve ever felt like that. I know that it seems like after a while it would tear at you, or you wouldn’t enjoy it as much, but for me this hasn’t been the case yet. I really do enjoy my job and I really enjoy the reactions that I get while I’m doing my job. It feels good to know how many people want you and desire you. It feels good to know that you really are that bitch! So for me stripping has had an awesome effect on my self-esteem, and I hope that it continues to do so. All I know is that for now, I will continue to strip and continue to let it boost my confidence and make me feel amazing. I love my job and all the benefits that come with it!

XO, 
Lola


The Essentials For an Adult Private Party or Strip Club

This blog is to tell you all about what you need when you are heading to a party. The way that my company works is that we go to your party, so we’re a mobile service company. If you’ve ever seen strippers in a movie showing up to someone’s house in a cop uniform, that’s pretty much what we do. When we’re at the party we dance (obviously) but we also play party games as well. So, it’s essential to have a few things when preparing to head out to a party.

First, you need the outfit you’re going to wear, but ALWAYS pack some backups. Bring two or three outfits just in case one gets ruined or a zipper breaks. You always need extras since you’re traveling to their spot. I always pack at least three or four bras and thongs, two outfits, and two pairs of shoes. Heels break and so do straps! It’s always better to be prepared. 

Second, you need all of the party game accessories. We play a few different games, but one includes spanking, another includes whipped cream, and another includes something we call “cooter shooters” (which are tubes of alcohol we put into our pussy and they take a shot of it). Those are really fun, trust me. So, I always make sure to pack a whip, some whipped cream, the shooters, baby wipes (to clean up the whipped cream), and a bag to hold it all in. I also bring a party light, a speaker, and a money bag. Those are also important because they set the mood for a fun party and of course you’re going to need a bag to put all your money in while you’re dancing. 

Next, I always make sure to bring some beauty essentials. I always have my hair and makeup done when I go into the party, but I always make sure to bring back up just in case my makeup gets messed up in the car or when I’m changing. I always bring my makeup bag, and a hair straightener with a brush, just in case. Then of course you bring perfume, pussy spray (like perfume or deodorant for your pussy), deodorant, hair ties, hair spray, and a handheld mirror. Those are just extras to prepare for the beauty part. Guys want you to look put together and smell nice, too. They care about your face, too, not just your body!

These are exactly what you’ll need if you’re going to your first party, or if you don’t know what to pack. A lot of this can also be used in a club (minus the whipped cream and shooters). If you’re just starting to get in the club/dancing scene make sure you come prepared! And don’t forget to have fun, and make lots of money

XO, 
Lola

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