Why This Atlanta Stripper Doesnt Get Involved With Clients

     Why don't I get involved with clients? I get asked to get involved with my clients all the time and I have a few different reasons why I won't. But trust me sometimes I do want to get involved! I try to stick to the rule of not getting involved with anyone because at the end of the day getting involved can make things messy.

    First of all, if I give it up to one of the guys then everyone will expect it, which turns into something that I cannot handle nor would I ever want to handle. The second that guys think you're an escort or that you are open to seeing them outside of a party everyone wants to hop on the option, too. What sucks is that even if I do want to get involved I don't want to make anyone else mad that I don't want to get involved with them, too. Because sometimes there are really sexy guys at the parties and I do want to sleep with them or go out with them. But it's hard for men to understand why, as a stripper, I wouldn't want to fuck everyone there. But that's another blog for another time!

    Second, it gives the clients expectations about our company. Just because one girl got involved with clients, doesn't mean that everyone else will, too. It would suck for a girl to come to a party and everyone there think that she's also an escort or that she's down to fuck because someone else from the company did. It just creates a whole messy situation that nobody wants.

    I also don't get involved with clients because that's not really the way I want to meet someone that I would want to be in a relationship with or hangout with. I feel like the whole situation would make things kind of weird between us. Like what if I wanted to take things slow, he has already seen me butt ass naked, I've danced all over him and his friends. He wouldn't be able to take me seriously if I said I wanted to take things slow- and I wouldn't blame him for that. It depends on the situation and the guy but sometimes I don't want to have sex for a while because I actually like the person I'm seeing and sex makes things messy sometimes. I can't expect someone to wait when they've seen every inch of me already.

    Lastly, I feel like if I did get involved with clients it would create a weird place in my head with my job. If I was hanging out with all my clients all the time I wouldn't be able to separate my life from work. At the end of the day, stripping is my job. Although it's definitely unconventional it still is my line of work and how I make money. I don't always want to be in work mode and I think that if I had a bunch of my clients around me I would have to be in work mode. I wouldn't be able to be myself either because I would have to put this show on that I'm overly sexual because that's the character I put on at parties, which isn't totally me. I don't know, I just feel like it would create a whole situation where I couldn't get away with work and I had to be the stripper version of me instead of me me.

There's definitely a lot more cons then there are pros of getting involved with clients. I try to keep my side of the street very clean with my job. I try to make sure I'm doing the best I can, and getting involved wouldn't be the best that I can. I try to respect myself and my boundaries as well. Keeping work and my personal life separate is definitely the best move for me. So, I'll continue to do it!

Rules at Private Parties in Atlanta

This blog is all about the rules that we have at private parties. These rules are essential to creating a safe space for everyone to feel comfortable and still have a fun time. I make sure to ALWAYS say all of the rules every single time I go to a party- even if they have booked with us before and they know the rules. It always is important to state the rules in the beginning, too, so there's no confusion during the party. If you don't state your boundaries, you can't get mad for them not being followed, right? So make sure to always lay out the ground rules so that nobody crosses a line that will make your night worse, and so you don't make the clients feel bad about it either. So, here we go!

First rule is no pictures or videos during the performance. This rule is very important and usually is always followed with no questions asked. We do a lot of bachelor parties and most of the men have wives or fiancés so they don't want it to be documented because they don't want there to be any proof! That rule is set there because our company plays different party games and we don't want the fun getting out. It would spoil all of the fun if everyone already knew the party games and knew what they were getting into. It's a surprise every time to everyone there what we do. Also, we don't want to give anything away for free. If someone posts a video of us playing some of the games, we're not getting paid for that person seeing it. So, that's unfair to us. I know for me, I don't give anything away for free!

Second rule is no fingers in our pussy or ass. This one always makes everyone laugh, but we have to say it because guys will try it all the time and they would DEFINITELY try it if we hadn't said not to. This one seems like it would be common sense not to do that to someone, but guys are dumb when their at parties and when their drinking. So we have to say this rule and I absolutely hate it when people try it. 

Third rule is just to be respectful with the touching. We're okay with a squeeze and will touching here and there but we do ask for everyone to be respectful. Being respectful means don't slap us really hard, don't squeeze til it hurts, don't slap our pussies, etc. Just understand that yes we are strippers but we are also people and we having feelings too! We don't like it when we feel taken advantage of.

Fourth rule is don't recycle the money. If it hits the floor or if its in any of our garments its our money now. Don't pick it up and give it back to us, it's super tacky and not cute. We are there to make money at the end of the day, so when it looks like you're trying to take advantage of the money we make it pisses us off and it's not a good look for anyone. 

So as you can see there's not a lot of rules, and they aren't unreasonable at all. They make a lot of sense and they keep the party going a lot smoother. They also help so that there's no awkwardness about anything, too. If you hire private dancers, make sure that you follow all of their rules (everyone I'm sure has different ones, these are just mine) because it will make them stay longer and make them feel comfortable which is usually what everyone wants. 

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Games I Play at Adult Parties in Atlanta

I am so excited to talk about the games we play at parties. A lot of people think that I just dance because I'm a stripper, but when we come to you it's a whole different story. I work at a mobile service company, not a club. Which is 200% better because all the rules are different and you're not surrounded by body guards the whole time, too! So here is a list of all the exciting games we play at parties.

First one we play is called “spank the bachelor”. We replace bachelor with whatever the occasion is. For example, if it’s a birthday party we call it “spank the birthday boy. You get it. So basically, it’s a dollar per spank. So, if we get $20, we give 20 spanks. It’s so funny how much money guys will give just to watch a stripper spank their friend. It’s amazing how silly these guys think it is. We usually make a good amount of money just off of that game, and it’s super simple.

Then, we play a game called “bobbing for dollars”. For this one we get the guy whose party it is to take off his pants and just have his underwear on. We get him and his friends to stuff dollar bills in their underwear and we pick them out only using our mouths. This one is a little harder because sometimes they stuff them deep down in their underwear and it’s hard to get them out. I am honestly horrible at that game. If I’m doing a one girl party, I skip the game all together because I’m so bad at it! The other girls I dance with are usually so much better and I let them be in charge of that game. Lol.

Third game, which is definitely my favorite, is called pussy pick up. I don’t know what you’re thinking but yes, we pick up dollar bills using our pussy’s. It’s amazing! So, basically, we get the guy to lay down on the ground on his back. Then we take dollar bills, fold them hotdog style, lay them all over his body, and pick them up using our pussy. We also will take them off your face for $20. Guys swoon over this game because they don’t know how we actually pick the dollar bills up, and I’m not going to tell you!

Then we do whip cream shots which always are a crowd pleaser. Basically, you get to lick whipped cream off of our bodies. So, it’s $20 for titty shots, $10 for ass shots, and $20 for bikini line shots. This is less of a game and more of an exciting activity everyone gets to be a part of. Again, guys love this game. Who wouldn’t!?

The final game we do is called “tooter shooters”. This one is also one of my favorites just because it’s so fun and you literally couldn’t get this anywhere else. So, the tooter shooters are a vile of alcohol, like a test tube, and you get to take a shot out of our pussy! The guy sits down on a sturdy chair, spreads his legs, and then we put our head in between his legs and flip over so our pussy is right in their face, put the vile in our pussy, and then he takes the shot! You have to be somewhat flexible to play this game, so some girls choose not to do them. Which is totally fine- the most important thing is that the girls are always comfortable. But this game is truly amazing. Whoever came up with these ideas is a genius.

And those are all of our games! I love my job and I love working at a mobile service company instead of a club. You can’t get any of the games at a club, it’s really only house parties. The surprise and excitement of all of their faces when you pull those games out never gets old! So, if you are debating on whether you should go to a club or order strippers, ALWAYS order them. It’s way more fun, and you get to interact 100% more. Thanks for reading!

XO,
Lola

Dumb Things Guys Say/Do at Strip-O-Gram Parties

Hey guys! This blog is all about the dumb things guys do/say at parties that I'm at. It was really fun writing this one, so I hope you're entertained from it, too. And what's so funny about this blog is that it really is just directed at guys. I've done parties that females were at and they followed all of the rules and didn't do anything that I didn't like. I've also done all girl parties and they were so respectful and never broke any of my rules or made me feel uncomfortable. Boys are just dumb at parties. I understand that they just get excited, though. So even though it does bug me, I get it at the same time. Anyways, here are just a few dumb things guys do!

1. Blatantly break one of my rules (or more) thinking I won't see or notice. This one pisses me off! I hate it when people make me feel like I'm stupid. I know I'm not, so when they try to be sneaky and do things thinking I won't notice- yeah, it makes me mad. They think that I'm stupid and it really gets under my skin. Like the last party I did. One of my rules is that there is no videos or pictures during the show. This old guy was obviously taking a video of me and I confronted him about it. He argued with me thinking that he could get out of it. I made him delete the video, but it still bothered me that he really thought I was stupid and wouldn't notice. I'll just say I didn't dance on him or go near him for the rest of the night. Momma doesn't play with that.

2. Asking me how much it costs to have sex with me after I've clearly stated I am not an escort. This one is just so stupid. It's crazy how men really don't know what to do with the word "no". I don't know if it's the way that they were raised or what, but some men really do not understand that no means no. It doesn't mean maybe and if you keep asking me I'll say yes. It means NO. Get it through your head that I am here to dance and entertain. There's no afterparty show. I'll do private dances but even when I'm doing that there's nothing more than dancing going on in that bedroom. I'm just a dancer ladies and gentlemen. Sorry to disappoint!

3. Slapping my pussy. This one is just painful! I think that guys forget that the vagina is super sensitive. So when you slap it, it hurts more than when you slap my ass or my arm. It stings and makes my pussy throb! No one wants to see that and I don't want to feel that. I absolutely HATE when guys do this. It's not cute at all and doesn't turn me on in the slightest bit. It makes me ignore you for the rest of the night which nobody likes. So respect me because I am human.

So, yeah those are just a few dumb things that guys do at parties besides at times just being cheap and pretending they don't have money to spend. I really do love my job so it sucks when guys do some of these things because it irritates me and makes me not want to stay long because I'm on edge. So, be nice and use your brain people! I've said it before and I'll say it again: just  because we are strippers and are in the sex industry doesn't mean we don't have feelings. We are people too, and we deserve respect just like anyone else. 

How I Became a Stripper in Atlanta Georgia

This is the adorable little story of how I became a stripper. It all started with a group that I was in. It was all about personal growth, and becoming the best person that you could be. It was a really beautiful group that helped me through some bad times. Anyways, I met the two owners of the company in the group and became friendly with them. I didn't know what they did for work, but it came up one day while we were all hanging out. I thought it was so cool because I had never met a stripper before- and these strippers owned their own company. I was so intrigued and wanted to know more. So they explained how the parties went and what kind of money you got and asked if I wanted to dance for them. I told them I would think about it because there were a lot of factors to add in, but I was very interested.

The next couple of weeks went by and it was a fleeting thought in the back of my head. First of all, I knew that my boyfriend wouldn't approve and he would be furious if I started dancing. Second, I was terrified of what my family would say. I was 18 at the time and still lived with my mom, so I felt that she would find out and my whole family would hate me. Third, I didn't know if I could actually do it at all. Can I dance good enough? Am I pretty enough? Do I have the confidence? These were all questions that were constantly racing through my head. 

I would see the owners about once a week and every time I saw them they would ask me if I was ready. I would joke with them about it at first, pretending like I was interested when I knew I wouldn't be able to pull it off. But every time they asked me if I was ready, I would consider it more and more every time. Eventually, I decided that it was something I would want to try out. So I talked to the owners, an audition time was made, and before I knew it I was buying a new outfit for my audition, and practicing all my sexiest dance moves. My boyfriend and I broke up so I decided that was the perfect time to actually go to my audition and see if I could work for the company. Then, I was on my way to their house.

I brought a friend with me to find an outfit, and then he ended up coming to the audition with me. That was so helpful because I was so incredibly nervous. I had to dance and strip all the way down in front of the owner and the manager. I had to give both of them lap dances and I was a nervous wreck. Looking back on it now, it was so funny that I had to do that. Anyways, they loved me from my audition and all of a sudden I was at my first party and fell in love with dancing. 

It's weird how the best things in life come from such weird places. But I love my job and I couldn't be more grateful to that group for helping me find my people who let me be who I want to be. 

How to Keep a Stripper at your Atlanta Party Longer

This blog is gonna give you some tips and tricks on how to get a stripper to stay at your party longer. The common subject is just being polite, and understanding that although we are strippers and we work in the sex industry, we are still people. We all still have feelings and we care about the way we are treated. I know in my experience, when someone breaks my rules or they disrespect me, I don't go near them for the rest of the night. So, follow these tips and you're sure to have your dancer there for a long time!

1. This one is super obvious, and a no-brainer: TIP BIG! If you're planning on ordering strippers to your house, prepare to spend a lot of money. There's nothing more annoying then driving all the way to a party to make no money. So, prepare to have your wallet cry in the morning. Have one's and it's always impressive when you tip with more than just one's ;)

2. I wish that I could say that this one is common sense, but it has to be said at every party that I dance at. Be respectful. I personally don't mind if you touch, or squeeze, but when you're slapping me and throwing me around, that's another story. This one guy slapped my pussy so hard one time I almost cried. That shit is not okay. It made me super mad, I wanted to leave, and I didn't perform my best that night because I felt uncomfortable. When you're disrespectful, it makes me want to steer clear of you, no matter how much money you have.

3. I also wish that I could say that this is common sense, but I have to talk about it. Listen to all of the rules, follow all of the rules, and try to enforce them, too. This kind of ties in with the respect thing, but it pisses me off so much that after we have said all of our rules, you decide to break them. It's like some men feel special and like they don't have to follow the rules. EVERYONE has to follow them. Even if I was stripping for my boyfriend and his friends, he still would have to follow the rules, too. I don't care who you are. I don't have a lot of rules and I'm super easy-going. So it's no surprise that when you break my rules, I ignore you for the rest of the night and I get pissed. Follow the rules and you will have an amazing night.

4. This one is just helpful, and for me it makes me want to stay longer. When you offer food and drinks, and you're just welcoming in general, it makes me feel comfortable. When I feel comfortable somewhere I'm okay staying longer because I know I'm safe. So when I feel so welcomed, it's hard not to want to stay and hangout. I've stayed at parties an hour or two after the performance just hanging out because the guy's were nice and they offered us a bunch of free food and free alcohol (which no one can ever complain about!). So, be a good host and your dancers will love you!

5. Last but not least, let us be in control. I love it when guys are listening, and they understand that we want to have fun with you guys but we're in a room, outnumbered, and it's hard to talk over a bunch of people. Let us be in control of what's going on and what's happening. And also- let us be in control of when and where we're dancing, and when to play the party games and all that. There's nothing more annoying then being told what to do or how to do my job. I know what I'm doing-trust me. Let me do my thing. Just sit down, relax, and enjoy the show.

So, follow these tips and tricks to get your dancers to stay longer. Everyone always has so much fun at these parties, and they usually don't want us to leave, so I'm guessing you won't want them to leave, too! Again, they're mostly all about being respectful and sweet. So use your brain, and treat these hard working people with the upmost respect.

My Family VS. My Stripping Job

This blog is going to be a bit of a venting session for me, so hang on tight. This is going to be about how I walk around literally feeling like I have two lives. One version of me is the way that my family wants to see me, and one version of me is who I actually am. This is the venting blog session of the half stripper, half innocent daughter.

So, I started dipping my toes into the sex worker side of the world about two and a half years ago. I decided to become a stripper and see what it was all about. I did one party and fell in love. I loved the attention, and how fun it actually was. I loved being able to dance and shake my ass without any shame or judgement. And of course, I absolutely adored the money. The way that people just threw it at you like you're the queen of the world and worth every single penny they've ever worked for, is a fucking fantastic feeling. Anyways, I just knew that this was something that I wanted to do for a long time. I was 18 years old at the time, and still lived with my parents. I moved out after about three or four months of stripping- but the entire time I hid the fact that I was a stripper. My family had absolutely no idea. I did tell my friends but nobody in my family knew about it, because I knew if they did know about it they wouldn't be anything near okay with it. So I fell in love with my job but had to hide it from the people I loved most. It sucked and it got super hard to keep it a secret, and one day it just slipped to my older sister. And my whole family found out and they were furious. And it was horrible and awful and so upsetting.

So, a year later I decided that it was my life and I wanted to start dancing again, so I talked to my old bosses and they welcomed me back with open arms. So, now I'm dancing again and I have to really really keep it a secret this time around or my family will never speak to me again. And now I'm just stuck in this place of really wanting to be honest with them, but also knowing what will happen if I am honest. It's a super shitty place to be in, because I really do hate lying to them. But I also want to be able to live my life the way I want to live it. This is something I want to do and I don't want to live my life based on making other people happy. So, I decided that this is what I'm going to do.

But, now I'm just stuck in a place of hating that I am lying to my whole family, and hating why I have to lie. I have to lie because my family is judgmental, and they refuse to accept something they don't understand or try to understand for that matter. They refuse to hear my side of the story, or to try to understand why I do it and why I like doing it. It just makes me sad that something that I love to do in my life is completely unacceptable to the people I love most. It's unfair that I can't be happy and be everything they want me to be. Frankly, it fucking sucks. And I'm pissed about it. So thank you for listening to this random, weird venting session. I know it'll be figured out eventually, but for now- it blows. 

The Effects Stripping Has Had on My Self-Esteem

Before I start getting into this blog, I want everyone reading it to know that this is my personal experience and I do not speak for anyone but myself. I am in no way speaking for anyone else or trying to put myself in another stripper’s shoes. This is all from me. 

Okay, so this blog may shock you, or this may be exactly what you thought. But to be perfectly honest with everyone, stripping has boosted my self-esteem beyond compare. I feel like the baddest bitch ever when I am dancing. It’s honestly so hard not to feel like that when you have tons of men literally drooling over you and throwing their hard earned cash on you. How else am I supposed to feel?!

I’ve been stripping now for about two years. I can’t count the amount of times people have asked me, “don’t you feel so degraded? Doesn’t that kill your self-esteem? How do you even live like that?”. To which I always reply, “I love stripping and it has boosted my self confidence more than anything else has. I love my job, and I love the way it makes me feel.” 

I guess this isn’t the most conventional way to boost your self-esteem, but for me it works. Just like anyone else, I’m insecure about my body sometimes. There are definitely many times where I look in the mirror and absolutely hate what I’m seeing. But, when I go to a party I immediately know that I will feel better about myself when I leave. Something that I’ve learned is that I am my worst critic. I am so mean to myself sometimes. It’s funny because the way I talk to myself I would never let any of my friends ever talk that way about themselves. So, when I’m feeling horrible about myself or I just can’t stand to look in the mirror, I think about the party that I had last week where guys were fighting over who I paid attention to. That they were literally emptying their wallets in the hope that I would stay longer. If that doesn’t boost your confidence, what will??? 

Like I said in the beginning, this is totally my own experience. I know that the job can be degrading, but I don’t think I’ve ever felt like that. I know that it seems like after a while it would tear at you, or you wouldn’t enjoy it as much, but for me this hasn’t been the case yet. I really do enjoy my job and I really enjoy the reactions that I get while I’m doing my job. It feels good to know how many people want you and desire you. It feels good to know that you really are that bitch! So for me stripping has had an awesome effect on my self-esteem, and I hope that it continues to do so. All I know is that for now, I will continue to strip and continue to let it boost my confidence and make me feel amazing. I love my job and all the benefits that come with it!

XO, 

Lola

The Essentials For an Adult Private Party or Strip Club

This blog is to tell you all about what you need when you are heading to a party. The way that my company works is that we go to your party, so we’re a mobile service company. If you’ve ever seen strippers in a movie showing up to someone’s house in a cop uniform, that’s pretty much what we do. When we’re at the party we dance (obviously) but we also play party games as well. So, it’s essential to have a few things when preparing to head out to a party.

First, you need the outfit you’re going to wear, but ALWAYS pack some backups. Bring two or three outfits just in case one gets ruined or a zipper breaks. You always need extras since you’re traveling to their spot. I always pack at least three or four bras and thongs, two outfits, and two pairs of shoes. Heels break and so do straps! It’s always better to be prepared. 

Second, you need all of the party game accessories. We play a few different games, but one includes spanking, another includes whipped cream, and another includes something we call “cooter shooters” (which are tubes of alcohol we put into our pussy and they take a shot of it). Those are really fun, trust me. So, I always make sure to pack a whip, some whipped cream, the shooters, baby wipes (to clean up the whipped cream), and a bag to hold it all in. I also bring a party light, a speaker, and a money bag. Those are also important because they set the mood for a fun party and of course you’re going to need a bag to put all your money in while you’re dancing. 

Next, I always make sure to bring some beauty essentials. I always have my hair and makeup done when I go into the party, but I always make sure to bring back up just in case my makeup gets messed up in the car or when I’m changing. I always bring my makeup bag, and a hair straightener with a brush, just in case. Then of course you bring perfume, pussy spray (like perfume or deodorant for your pussy), deodorant, hair ties, hair spray, and a handheld mirror. Those are just extras to prepare for the beauty part. Guys want you to look put together and smell nice, too. They care about your face, too, not just your body!

These are exactly what you’ll need if you’re going to your first party, or if you don’t know what to pack. A lot of this can also be used in a club (minus the whipped cream and shooters). If you’re just starting to get in the club/dancing scene make sure you come prepared! And don’t forget to have fun, and make lots of money! 

XO, 

Lola