StripperLife & Beyond
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Life In The Fast Lane 💨
Everyone imagines the life of a stripper to be of one in the limelight and living life in the fast lane. I am sure the spectrum of varying stories change often as much as a person changes their socks or shoes. One must also take into account a great deal of variations depending upon their individual lives, the total sum of life experiences & how they view the world.
Strippers Don't Have Feelings!
A big portion I would take into account would definitely be how one may personally compartmentalize & deal with their feelings, relationships & how they display certain particular behaviors whether it be in a healthy way or a non-healthy way. A person might also might factor in how they deal with past trauma, present drama, fear of the future, losses through life or any personally conflicting situations that have happened or that arise in life whether it is good, bad or indifferent. Some may enter into the industry out of rebellion to their family, friends and loved ones while the other may just join to merely party for free and make a decent living while doing so. I guess it really doesn't matter how you ultimately get into it but what you do with it when you are in it and how you spend your money. Some might get tired of it quickly or perhaps meet their financial goals earlier than anticipated. Some end up on the darker side of things like in a vicious cycle of dangerous habits, destructive behavior & bouts of clinical depression from indulging in too many spirits (natural depressants) while working the floor or in between shooting films or just as bad... drugs.
Do strippers have a shelf life?
Old age is an adult entertainer's worst nightmare. Once age settles in you find out what parts of your body are taking the first toll and you begin to notice facial lines materialize or worse wrinkles! Some in the industry will stay in the business and make a whole career out of it with their own certain unique branding, niche and image portrayed online until old age says enough is enough, profits plummet or their own personal health catches up & gets the best of them. With adult entertainment so widely all over the internet it definitely makes being able to stay in the industry for a lot longer than the shelf life of a stripper say 15 + years ago!
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High Paying Summer College Job
Anyway... moving right along. Some exotic dancers get into dancing at strip clubs or doing private parties to get through college. This makes it able for them to float their tuition, fees, room & board, school supplies, college textbooks and everyday just simple living expenses without having to take on a part-time or full time job while striving to maintain their college GPA score of close to a (wishful thinking) 4.0.
Kids Having Kids Can Be Life Changing
There are even some dancers that may only get into it because they had a child or have children too early in their life. A lot of kids these days are having children in their teens or twenties and most times they wish they were better prepared or a little further along in life than when they had their son or daughter but they of course now swear they wouldn't take it back for anything in the world. Some might even say the best accident they've ever in life that they'd never take back! Some from this poor planning in life figure, "Ah what the hell I'll do it for my children," because there's no other way they can see out or to catch back up at their 9 to 5 pm grind daytime job day in and day out, everyday & every week seeming as the last, making just enough to cover bills, groceries, gas, formula, diapers, etc. If the person in question has good family values, a solid backing and support network such a task may not be as overbearing or worrisome as someone that does not have anyone, has very few friends, has no family, has no relatives or has no loved ones. Being young most youth aren't at all financially ready to be actual parents or accept the responsibility of all of what it fully entails. They are also not at all prepared for many of the unknown hardships & bumps in the road that lay along their unpaved path and journey ahead.
Are Strippers With Stretch Marks & Fat Allowed To Strip At Strip Clubs or Adult Entertainment Companies
That goes without saying if the dancer's body isn't scared or stretched out too badly (causing serious stretch marks that resemble tiger claw marks) from having a child they are able to seek out and pursue pretty much any kind of adult jobs in the adult entertainment field. Though their options may be limited depending on how deep their scars are and/or how much left over fat in their mid torso or stomach region.
One Way To Tear Down Your Walls & Barriers
Many exotic dancers & entertainers began their journey on a scary path of the unknown not quite sure of what really to expect. Especially with all the negative jive and stories that hit the press from time to time on particular incidents involving either a stripper, a strip club or illegal pimp online or on the television news channel. Unless they have a close friend or relative to coach them along the way and help them get there foot in the door most newbie dancers haven't the slightest idea what is in store for them up ahead. Life is most times like that no matter which doors you choose to walk through or have to go through there is always the fear, doubt & uncertainty that lies awake & lurking in the deepest & darkest corners of your mind. Most people on earth find that after the letting down their guard, tearing down their walls and fine tuning themselves people tend to find their innermost self through their most transforming of times. Typically only when a person has literally had thousands of various different interactions with so many different personalities on a regular basis every week while only wearing their birthday suit at the same time literally nonstop going through a rich full life of unique & one of a kind experiences will they come out of their shell down to their innermost core. Most times they ironically seem to come out of it stronger and even a better version of their previous self before it all happened in the first place. That's of course after sensibly taking the proper time one's individual self and spirit might need to properly process all the unplaced & difficult emotions. After an individual goes through enough difficulty & uncomfortable experiences one sometimes find new perspective and they eventually began to quit caring what others think of them. They begin to only care about what they think of themselves and what kind of life "they" want to live. They will improve more upon not only what they personally think of themselves but even more so about what they think of the select number of people they are close to, cherish, love and hold dear to them. They will learn to somewhat learn to real energy, auras and be a better judge of character to the wolves in sheeps clothing of the world. Selection then for a select few, that are nonjudgmental & non-cynical to your freedom of choice & how to choose to live out your life, will become a cornerstone to your overall health, sanity and overall well-being. One should always be cautious when letting just anyone in their life and their very own personal special circle or their bubble of trust.
Exotic Dancing Is A Lot Like Driving A Car
I guess you could compare it to the the first time you ever drove a motor vehicle. I am sure that before & during your first few hundred experiences you probably most likely recall being scared, nervous, anxious, disoriented, confused, sweaty palms, churning stomach, stress, irritable bowels or all the above. In time you should have become more and more comfortable with driving the foreign entity as time passed on. Until the individual gets so comfortable and familiar with every action until it's no longer foreign and literally feels like it's second nature. Then you are seen driving down the road one day doing a thousand things at once; ie: putting makeup on, eating, knee driving, talking on the phone while adjusting the air... all at the same time., Adult film stars along with female and male strippers, I believe, are some of the most in tune and in touch individuals you'll sometimes ever meet. You are forced to face all your fears (or at least most of them) by repetition & constantly doing it over and over again it up until it doesn't even require thought or a plan of action.
To Strip Or Not To Strip? That Is The Question.
But What Is The Answer Though???
You just do it. It will become just natural instinct to do something you've done so many times already before. It just takes getting practice. They say practice makes perfect! Let's face the facts. Ultimately you really only have two options with what to do with all the fear you have in you about getting into the adult industry...
You can:
F.ace F.uck
E.verything or E.verything
A.nd A.nd
R.ecover R.un
You can Face Everything And Recover simply by facing your fears, adapting to the new change, recovering and grow from it or you can let fear take full control with that noise maker going off in your head saying all negative thoughts. Things like, "you can't do this," "you're never gonna make it Dewey Cox," "what if they boo me off stage," "you can't dance well enough to do this," "what if someone finds out that I know," "what if something terrible happens to me", "what if I'm not pretty enough" or "what if the other girls are mean to me like back in high school." It's really up to you. The "what if" will stop people most of the time. These people think about it then think themself right back out of it. Sometimes they'll get half way, a quarter of the way or right up to the very moment of stripping and freak & sike themselves out of it overthinking and over analyzing it in their jumbled, scared & nervous heads. To these we see them just straight say Fuck Everything And Run. The only person it's going directly affect is you.
I Didn't Have Any Other Choice But To Go Strip
Remember every choice you make in life can affect you negatively or positively for the rest of your life. The secret is perception. This can be a view from an outside interest who has no affiliation as to not cause any conflict of interest. A view from another person's eyes is so you can see things not in an emotional, irrational or personal light but to allow one to better respond versus react. You make your bed you're going to have to lie in it. Many people say, "Oh but I didn't have a choice." Everyone ultimately always has a choice (unless one is held of course against his/her own will). You are your own person & should stand tall & proud of the decisions you make regarding "your life" and how you choose to live it. Especially if it is doing something that helps to excel yourself in a positive meaningful direction with means to an end.
Coming Out That I'm A Stripper To Family
Many are always so worried about what others will think of them, what their friends will say, what their family will do and how the public light and anyone who may know may or may not view them or how they may treat them. Now of course if you have deeply worried & loving people in your life you can always compromise or reconsider.
Relationships, no matter what kind they, compromise & clear communication are vital to avoid complications and confusion. Granted your loved ones have a practical & sensible alternative solution to your dilemma and/or problem that isn't something you've already tried or thought at length on. Also are they willing to contribute & sacrifice their own valuable time helping you out, assist with financial resources or money to the cause of your betterment & well being of your life similar to how you want it or envision it one day? You should at least hear them out and take their opinions & considerations into account but make sure it is coming from a loving place. Not one with someone who has seriously seeded, untreated power issues or control issues who everyone is secretly afraid to point out to them when that someone gets into big bully mode and start power tripping over nothing and accomplishing nothing. Find out what does he/she or they gain or lose (or in fear of losing) if you were to choose to take the fast lane to reach your sought out fame, fortune or happiness?
" There's got to be a quicker & faster way to get ahead in life! "
Some people are more in fear of their damaging their own personal ego, reputation & pride versus what's actually happening or the undeniable possibly of it just so happen to possibly be you in that person's shoes one day. These self absorbed & judgemental individuals do not know what you've been through, where you want to be & what deep within your core has screamed out to the universe saying, "There's got to be a quicker & faster way to get ahead in life! " They sometimes won't care or won't take into consideration what all you already know you may or may not have to go through, endure and sacrifice to get to whatever goal you are aiming to accomplish by said amount of time you wish in your head. Even if you have said by this certain particular age I want these things acquired in my life and to be this far along in life they won't understand because they are not you and you are not them. You become sad because most of your life you were (for the most part) completely satisfied with YOUR - life timeline. You've always had kinda what you wanted to be laid out in your head as a child, teen or young adult growing up but lost that somewhere along the way. It starts to hurt you because it might seem as though your loved ones are slightly insulting your intelligence by making you feel like you aren't thinking clearly and you haven't put any real thought in this adult entertainment industry career choice. They won't likely understand you are seeking out to achieve your own personal path, long term goals & "end goal" which is the whole real reason of you two having and being on that current topic of conversation in the first place. Making a decision like this isn't made just for any reason. Ultimately deep down inside it is a cry for help sadly to say. But one to themselves for not looking out for the one & only person that, in the end, has their back & has to live with themselves... themself.
" You don't become a stripper, a fetish model or porn star because you were on a winning streak"
Naturally normal people (unless talking about thirsty men) don't jump head first into stripping, porn, fetish industry & cam modeling because you were on a winning streak and doing so well in life. That this opportunity just seemed like the next right thing to do that came along out of the blue and landed square in your lap calling your name while saying it must be written in stars. It's quite the opposite actually. It isn't all about what happened that got the person to this point (unless it's a life history lesson not to try to repeat again) but what the person doing about their dilemma once they start or once they have been doing it for some time. Saving money, budgeting, investing wisely and going into business for themselves is the wiser more responsible option and action sometimes taken. Others may use it for school to get a degree or a certificate of some sort to advance upon their continued education. But unfortunately there are those that don't get in, make a ton of money & get out that get hardcore into drugs, crime, prostitution and spending all there fast cash on flashy stuff, experiences, toys & living a more expensive & lavish lifestyle. This will continue most likely until they go to jail, rehab or their health deteriorates to where their looks are no longer passable for any strip club, stripper agency, porn production companies or fetish content producers that'll hire them. Now they have wasted even more time and life. They are back where they started having to grab any paying job they can get their hands on whether it be retail, washing dishes or serving at restaurant just to make ends meet.
Adult Entertainment Industry Jobs & Freelancers
Now some entertainers actually catch a break & get offers that derived and materialized from being a stripper, fetish model, webcam model or porn star and land a talent, model, Hip Hop video vixen or actress role along the way in their adult careers. This has been happening more and more with the surfacing of the internet and the vase sea of interconnections all over the web. Along with all the social media platforms we have out there and available at our fingertips this day and age. It is really no wonder why Hollywood & Atlanta's new Hollywood uses so many exotic dancers, fetish models, cam girls and porn stars in so many movies, shows, films & videos these days. Definitely says something about what the internet has done in making this acceptable by overindulging & becoming desensitized from so much exposure over the years. This was primarily to online porn, webcam chating with live models, sexting, sex chat hotlines, custom made fetish videos, strippers in rap songs, twerking videos all over YouTube and fetish & lifestyle communities like on Fetlife.com. This online community openly welcomes pretty much anyone over 18 + who too seeks online individuals with similar fetishes and kinks. This is where someone might go for solace, refuge, acceptance & further education into the lifestyle from many other like minded individuals that share the same common goals and interest as they do. Not too mention everyone over sexualizing anything and everything just to receive online attention and get likes, comments, shares, follows, subscribers or to go viral & become "instafamous" like some Instagram models and big online influencers.
Adult Entertainers Taking Film Acting
Roles In Atlanta
Many Atlanta film producers have even openly mentioned in large groups and panels that acting and putting on "that" mask is what entertainers, performers and exotic dancers are best known for because they literally do it repetitively on a consistent basis. They do this with little if any impromptu, switching character persona at the drop of a hat, when entertaining fully nude for viewers and clients in person or online. I believe that tempting and luring a viewer and onlooker to keep their eyes on you & only you is something of skill and brass. Not just anyone can do it.
I Love Turning You On ❤
Just imagine being put on the spot & you have to attempt to create a stimuli response and one of a kind lust & desire in a show for a person(s) that are complete strangers so much to where they pay your time, performing arts services & then true fact that they are paying for THAT chemical change in their brains. That stimuli response you stirred deep inside of them was passed on from generations is entirely carnal & animalistic in so many ways. All this is completely normal to the human species & should just be accepted openly versus repressing & ignoring it because society, religion, politics, family or whoever.
Playing Telephone - Hunters & Gatherers
Likelihood that through playing " Telephone " through so many different religions for 1000's of years there might have been a slight part of some information, involving our sex conduct, incorrect or inaccurate? Doesn't add up and it just isn't practical if you think about it. We all know how just ONE small single sentence can't hold its weight, truth or validity in just a small circle of twenty five people in is minute allott of time going around being whispered from one person to the next all to hear the final finished product absolutely butchered and slaughtered all to hell and back. If we humans act and are the same as any other animal on earth put here to reproduce, procreate & evolve. Is it not fair to say maybe we messed this one up along the way somewhere? I think so... If you do your research you will see marriage was a recent concept in the whole scope & scheme of things out of the total amount of time we humans have been in existence (on record) on earth. We have always for the most part been hunters and gatherers. We have worked in groups, families and tribes taking care of one another sharing everything. Value, prestige, riches & property came about and we assumed a new role forced by the wealthy and powerful to join forces, allies & sometimes inherit wealth, property or both.
Art Of Sexual Seduction
- Genetics & Pheromones -
We were born with a genetic code passed from our ancestors to react and respond to a sexual body parts or partners we are attracted to which then which in turn releases pheromones to prompt for immediate mating & reproduction procedures within our own species that we at that particular moment find sexual attraction towards. Now granted yes I know we are more civilized and humane today and don't go around having sex with the first person that tickles our fancy down below! To be able to create and wield instantaneous, spontaneous & absolute undeniable desire and energy in another's direction and make him have a physical reaction (warm face, blushing, nervousness, the shakes, trembles, butterflies in stomach excitement, heart racing, arousal, erection, sloppy coordination of speech) is definitely a true gift and an energy we should fully accept, embrace, explore and not shame one another for anymore when everyone literally does it. The lust in a person watching a stripper varies but tends to at times be so powerful to where you feel obligated & it provokes a natural response in the person(s) to tip or show some appreciation in their beauty as a sexual but respected being created from the same spirit and energy you are. This experience is a magical & natural human art form few have in them to pull off for another human being and make a practice of it so much that it looks good and hits all the right notes deep within your body.
Proper Stripper Tipping Etiquette - 101 Stealing is Stealing
If you find a male or female stripper at a strip club pleasing to look at their body then one should act on that and tip accordingly. One should treat a simple glance or look like a travel tour, price for admission to a sports event, an amusement park, skydiving, a movie, a carnival, a cruise, etc. Just this attraction is of a different nature but pretty much all the same concept nonetheless. You are paying for the views, the experience and the way it made you feel. You are walking through the zoo looking at all the animals in their cages without paying the entry park fee. You stealing their zoo views is just like staring at a stripper up on stage for at least a quarter of one song and not tipping her at all. 70% of men at strip clubs do this trick unfortunately... pay $10 to $20 entry, pay for a couple drinks, close out their tab just to go hide in a corner or a spot not blatantly right directly in front of the stages so someone does not get onto them for sitting so close and not tipping even though they are in the best seat in the club and should tip.
Stripper Rules & Regulations
Adult entertainment is the same way as anything of course needs boundaries (security) & rules (simple common respect) of conduct just like any amusement park says no smoking in the park or no selfie sticks on the roller coasters. You will still always get those that like to push the envelope but that is why safety is of the utmost importance, accountability & screening is done by most in the adult industry. This is mostly on the female entertainers side because men drinking around nude or scantily women have been known to push the envelope a tad too far. Safety precautions are not required for male entertainers in the business though except for STD tests of course. We all know we like strippers occasionally & some more than others.
"This is who we are and this is what we are."
Everyone here reading this I am sure you've all watched porn, looked at nude pics or even seen a hot Instagram model that made your mouth water & something down in your pants tingle. We as humans all enjoy good experiences, feeling some sort of way and and viewing things that are pleasing to the eyes to see. The sooner we accept facts: this is who we are and this is what we are... the better. We have to learn to love & accept anyone and everyone regardless if they are in entertainment or are not in entertainment. No matter what religion they believe in, what the color of their skin is, what their sexuality is, what there sexual preference is, what political party they are with, what political party they are not with, what they do for a living, what's there education, how they look, how they dress, what they wear, what they drive, where they live, where they are from, how they talk, who they know, who they don't know, what kind of upbringing they had and what they like to do behind private doors.
I Am Okay With Me. Are You Okay With Me?
As long as what a person does is legal, abides by local state law & sanctions, not harming themselves, not harming someone else, damaging someone's property and not stealing then your conscience and energy should be in alignment with the manifestations you are trying to put in sync with your one precious life. Give yourself a break, put down the bat, follow your intuition, follow your dreams, to thy own self be true, judge no one, follow your energy & think about what you can bring, give or contribute to the situation instead of what you are getting out of it or what you are taking away. Do the "next" right thing. Post comments, feedback, request and questions below. Thank you!
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